I Gave Up. Then THIS Happened.

by Tracy Poizner  |  25.05.18 | 23:46

Do you have something [or someone] right now that you are ready to give up on? You are a rare stepmom indeed if you don’t relate to this, even some of the time! Giving up usually leaves you with a defeated, resentful feeling. It’s the sting of cutting your losses, or the survival instinct of preventing more disappointment. It’s almost summer Read the full article…

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6 Ways To Be A Stepmother Who Is Not A Mom

by Tracy Poizner  |  25.05.18 | 14:53

6 WAYS TO BE A STEPMOTHER WHO IS NOT-A-MOM My personal approach to the role of stepmother is to avoid behaving like a mom. There could be good reasons to do otherwise, but for most of us I think this is the best policy and here is why: Birth moms (BM) do not like it Read the full article…

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Are You Overstepping Boundaries As A Stepmom?

by Tracy Poizner  |  22.05.18 | 18:04

Is there an actual stepmom boundary you are supposed to keep your toes inside of? Is it written down somewhere? How can you find out? What if you don’t agree?   Being a stepmother is an activity fraught with potential landmines – emotional ones, of course. It’s something between walking a tightrope and dancing on Read the full article…

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How To Give Your Stepkids Something Priceless [part two]

by Tracy Poizner  |  06.05.18 | 2:52

Here’s the scoop: what this little customer needs more than anything is more of their dad (or mom if she’s your partner). They need to repair the deep tear in the fabric of their security net that was caused by the separation of their parents. Their security net is in shreds and the only thing Read the full article…

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They Really Do Appreciate You [But You Have To Help Them Show It]

by Tracy Poizner  |  05.05.18 | 21:12

This post is part of my ongoing rant about how to get what you need out of Mothers’ Day and Stepmothers’ Day (which I will now refer to as Stepmom Day…sounds more like a celebration than an opportunity to put a thumbtack on someone’s chair – ha!). Why should they need help to show they Read the full article…

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Here’s What I Don’t Care About Anymore

by Tracy Poizner  |  15.04.18 | 0:15

I care about a lot of things. I’m lucky that I get to spend my days doing something I care about very much, which is blazing a trail of self-discovery for other stepmoms who can benefit from things I have already learned. I think of myself as a pretty caring person. That’s why I had Read the full article…

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Are You Training Your Stepfamily To Disrespect You?

by Tracy Poizner  |  05.04.18 | 2:31

If you are reading this, it’s probably because, like me, you are a stepmother. Honestly, we could not have chosen a better life situation to be triggered in a hundred different ways by not feeling respected! If it’s not the kids, it’s your partner. If not him, then surely it’s the biomom who lets you Read the full article…

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Get INSTANT Respect With One Simple Phrase [That Won’t Leave You Feeling Like A Bitch!]

by Tracy Poizner  |  05.04.18 | 2:20

Whether or not you are a stepmother, self-respect is essential for Happiness. Your Happiness. Believe it or not, Happiness is all that counts. There is no purpose in your life that isn’t bound to your right to feel abundant Happiness. This kind of “Big H” Happiness comes from things like nourishing relationships, achieving important goals Read the full article…

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4 Unexpected Reasons Your Stepchild Keeps Lying [And How To Make It Stop] Part 2

by Tracy Poizner  |  26.03.18 | 0:10

In Part 1, I talked about what might be causing your stepkids to lie. Why does that matter? It matters because you need some clarity about what’s going on so you can choose the right solution! Read over Part 1 again and try to understand where your stepkids might need you to understand what is happening. Read the full article…

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4 Unexpected Reasons Your Stepchild Keeps Lying [And How To Make It Stop].

by Tracy Poizner  |  21.03.18 | 2:13

Part 1 (of 2) All kids lie sometimes, it’s part of normal childhood development. Stepkids have additional reasons to lie, and they might surprise you: 1. It’s about Survival. If they are lying to their bio mom about you, it’s probably because she lets them know (overtly or subtly) that they are only safe/loved/okay if Read the full article…

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