I Gave Up. Then THIS Happened.

by Tracy Poizner  |  25.05.18 | 23:46

Do you have something [or someone] right now that you are ready to give up on? You are a rare stepmom indeed if you don’t relate to this, even some of the time! Giving up usually leaves you with a defeated, resentful feeling. It’s the sting of cutting your losses, or the survival instinct of preventing more disappointment. It’s almost summer Read the full article…

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6 Ways To Be A Stepmother Who Is Not A Mom

by Tracy Poizner  |  25.05.18 | 14:53

6 WAYS TO BE A STEPMOTHER WHO IS NOT-A-MOM My personal approach to the role of stepmother is to avoid behaving like a mom. There could be good reasons to do otherwise, but for most of us I think this is the best policy and here is why: Birth moms (BM) do not like it Read the full article…

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Are You Overstepping Boundaries As A Stepmom?

by Tracy Poizner  |  22.05.18 | 18:04

Is there an actual stepmom boundary you are supposed to keep your toes inside of? Is it written down somewhere? How can you find out? What if you don’t agree?   Being a stepmother is an activity fraught with potential landmines – emotional ones, of course. It’s something between walking a tightrope and dancing on Read the full article…

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How To Give Your Stepkids Something Priceless [part two]

by Tracy Poizner  |  06.05.18 | 2:52

Here’s the scoop: what this little customer needs more than anything is more of their dad (or mom if she’s your partner). They need to repair the deep tear in the fabric of their security net that was caused by the separation of their parents. Their security net is in shreds and the only thing Read the full article…

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They Really Do Appreciate You [But You Have To Help Them Show It]

by Tracy Poizner  |  05.05.18 | 21:12

This post is part of my ongoing rant about how to get what you need out of Mothers’ Day and Stepmothers’ Day (which I will now refer to as Stepmom Day…sounds more like a celebration than an opportunity to put a thumbtack on someone’s chair – ha!). Why should they need help to show they Read the full article…

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Here’s What I Don’t Care About Anymore

by Tracy Poizner  |  15.04.18 | 0:15

I care about a lot of things. I’m lucky that I get to spend my days doing something I care about very much, which is blazing a trail of self-discovery for other stepmoms who can benefit from things I have already learned. I think of myself as a pretty caring person. That’s why I had Read the full article…

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Are You Training Your Stepfamily To Disrespect You?

by Tracy Poizner  |  05.04.18 | 2:31

If you are reading this, it’s probably because, like me, you are a stepmother. Honestly, we could not have chosen a better life situation to be triggered in a hundred different ways by not feeling respected! If it’s not the kids, it’s your partner. If not him, then surely it’s the biomom who lets you Read the full article…

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Get INSTANT Respect With One Simple Phrase [That Won’t Leave You Feeling Like A Bitch!]

by Tracy Poizner  |  05.04.18 | 2:20

Whether or not you are a stepmother, self-respect is essential for Happiness. Your Happiness. Believe it or not, Happiness is all that counts. There is no purpose in your life that isn’t bound to your right to feel abundant Happiness. This kind of “Big H” Happiness comes from things like nourishing relationships, achieving important goals Read the full article…

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4 Unexpected Reasons Your Stepchild Keeps Lying [And How To Make It Stop] Part 2

by Tracy Poizner  |  26.03.18 | 0:10

In Part 1, I talked about what might be causing your stepkids to lie. Why does that matter? It matters because you need some clarity about what’s going on so you can choose the right solution! Read over Part 1 again and try to understand where your stepkids might need you to understand what is happening. Read the full article…

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4 Unexpected Reasons Your Stepchild Keeps Lying [And How To Make It Stop].

by Tracy Poizner  |  21.03.18 | 2:13

Part 1 (of 2) All kids lie sometimes, it’s part of normal childhood development. Stepkids have additional reasons to lie, and they might surprise you: 1. It’s about Survival. If they are lying to their bio mom about you, it’s probably because she lets them know (overtly or subtly) that they are only safe/loved/okay if Read the full article…

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How To Give Your Stepkids Something Priceless [But Not Expensive!]

by Tracy Poizner  |  15.12.17 | 1:06

There is an old saying: The customer is always right. I don’t mean that your stepkids are always right – good grief! A family is not exactly a business, but it’s worth remembering that most business owners consider it a good investment to go the extra mile for their customers because a profoundly unhappy client can Read the full article…

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Discipline For Good Stepmothers (Part One)

by Tracy Poizner  |  19.11.17 | 0:55

Not many of us make it a point to discuss serious topics like shared values before we get married or move in with a single dad. If you don’t have kids of your own, you might be worried about coming across like an evil stepmom if you have to discipline his kids when they misbehave. Read the full article…

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Do You Feel Like An Outsider As A Stepmom?

by Tracy Poizner  |  04.11.17 | 22:35

In this video, I talk about how to cope with the common problem of feeling like an outsider in your family. There are a bunch of different reasons why this can happen, and some of then you can change, while others are outside of your control. What you CAN control is whether you give your Read the full article…

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Hold Your First Family Meeting!

by Tracy Poizner  |  27.10.17 | 23:41

Maybe this sounds like as much fun as joining a Polar Bear swim on New Years’ Day, but it can be a great way to accomplish a lot of goals for your everyone in your family: It makes rules and expectations clear. It gives everyone a voice and lets the kids tell you what they Read the full article…

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How To Unlock Your Stepchild’s Heart

by Tracy Poizner  |  25.10.17 | 17:56

The ONE thing every stepmom ABSOLUTELY needs to know! Just let me know where to send your download.    

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Shareholder Satisfaction: The Secret Life Of The 50/50 Child

by Tracy Poizner  |  25.10.17 | 17:42

Imagine, if you will, that you work in an office where as part of the normal workflow you must work every other week at a different location. You pack up all your stuff – you might even need to put it in a large briefcase on wheels – and go to another desk in another Read the full article…

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The Candy Conundrum

by Tracy Poizner  |  23.10.17 | 20:49

It is the end of October as I write this and parents inclined toward healthy living are in a conundrum. You don’t want to be a wet blanket about one of the most beloved kid-centered events of the year, but your kids are going to be a wreck if you just let them eat all Read the full article…

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I Wish Mom And Dad Were Still Together

by Tracy Poizner  |  17.10.17 | 14:16

These are words that can strike at the heart of a stepmother so it’s important to understand what kids really mean when they say this. If you have lost one of your own parents, you might sometimes feel like saying “I wish dad were still around. I really miss him”. I think you know what Read the full article…

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Do Not Leave Home Without These Three Things. Like, Ever.

by Tracy Poizner  |  16.10.17 | 0:30

If you are new to the kids game, here is a rule that will never fail you. It is a mantra that I say to myself every time I am going out the door with one or more children. It goes like this: “A drink, a snack, a handful of Kleenex”. I know what you Read the full article…

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You’re Already A Model Parent

by Tracy Poizner  |  27.09.17 | 20:06

Children learn absolutely everything they need to know by watching and copying. It’s amazing, but if there was no such a thing as school, they would figure everything they need to do by watching others who can already do it. They do things over and over again, forming mental patterns that allow them to walk Read the full article…

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